Taming a tiny tyrant: "Get dressed. Brush your teeth. Pick up your toys." Imagine if someone bossed you around all day. You'd want to rise up and take charge occasionally, too. Four year olds often have flings with bossy behaviour. In part they're copying you, and in part they're experimenting with their ability to get others to do things for them. In a way, handling bossiness is about teaching your child social graces - before she becomes a tyrant nobody enjoys being around.